With Valentine's Day around the corner, let's visit some of the lunacy that happens in relationships. Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, coach, mediator and trainer, the delightful Matt Ahrens (Self-pres 9), shares his insights into each type's attachment issues. Matt disputes a lot of traditional Attachment Theory and says the whole thing with attachment is a lot more nuanced (which the Enneagram can account for). There are in fact three distinct styles for each type. Get in touch with Matt if this sort of thing lights you up.
Instead of episode notes, here is Matt’s organisation of the Enneagram types and attachment styles:
Core attachment strategy, based on the dominant Center (wounded place)
234 - Anxious
567 - Avoidant
891 - Disorganised - simultaneous co-arising of both
Adaptive style, based on Hornevian groups (the non-wounded place)
126 - Anxious
378 - Disorganised
459 - Avoidant
Subtype layer
SP - Warm (Anxious)
SX - Hot (Disorganised)
SO - Cool (Avoidant)
To summarise:
Type 9 - Disorganised/Avoidant + subtype
Type 1 - Disorganised/Anxious + subtype
Type 2 - Anxious/ Anxious + subtype
Type 3 - Anxious/Disorganised + subtype
Type 4 - Anxious/Avoidant + subtype
Type 5 - Avoidant/Avoidant +subtype
Type 6 - Avoidant/Anxious + subtype
Type 7 - Avoidant/Disorganised + subtype
Type 8 - Disorganised/Disorganised +subtype
Find Matt
https://www.linkedin.com/in/mattahrens
https://themattahrensgroup.com/
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